‘I don’t want people ever looking at me and thinking she’s got it all’

Selena Gomez says she hopes her documentary shows people that she doesn't have it all.  (Image: REUTERS/Mario Anzuoni)

Selena Gomez says she hopes her documentary shows people that she doesn’t have it all. (Image: REUTERS/Mario Anzuoni)

Selena Gomez, 30, talked about her journey to mental health, befriending her bipolar disorder and embracing the unknown in a recent interview with Jay Shetty.

The Heartbreaking Documentary From the Founder of Wondermind Selena Gomez: My Mind and Me premiered on November 4, showing fans a different, less composed side of Gomez, something she was very conscious of.

“I think in the end I really wanted people to realize that I’m really not like that. I can be. And I feel a lot better now. But I don’t want people ever to look at me and think she’s got it all And she’s got it, and she’s perfect. I just want to be someone that people can actually walk up to and say, ‘Hey, I understand what you went through. I did,'” she said in the On Purpose podcast.

Gomez exclaimed that this recognition is especially important to her because she has put pressure on herself in the past to look perfect.

“I felt like I had to be” [perfect] when I, you know, when I went through relationships, I felt like I had to be a certain way. That’s why in 2016 I was talking about my body and my looks and how, ‘Oh, everyone will see me as this Disney kid. Nobody’s going to take me seriously.’ All those moments. That’s kind of true, yeah, that’s where all the confusion for me came from,” she said.

She also talks about her bipolar diagnosis and how embracing the condition as a part of her has helped in her healing.

“My favorite thing I say in the documentary is, ‘I have bipolar.’ I learned to live with it and I just made it my friend,” she said.

Gomez, who was diagnosed with bipolar disorder in 2019, is an adamant supporter of therapy and has been open about taking medication as part of her treatment plan. Still, she admits that her journey to find out what works for her hasn’t been linear.

“To be honest, I’ve been to four treatment centers and I have a lot of opinions about rehab if you will. There’s a lot I don’t agree with,” she said.

But with some trial and error, she has discovered that it is critical to accept the reality of the situation she is currently facing.

“But what I’ll say is … learning lessons through dialectical behavior or cognitive behavioral therapy, there’s something that’s always been anchored in me during all those different moments in my life. And that was always to recognize when something went wrong with me.” happens to me, accepting it And once I realized that this was something that wouldn’t go away… it wasn’t something that would be solved by going to these places, it was more than that, what can I know about myself. If I go down this road, I’ll be triggered, and I know that feeling and know how to avoid it, but I’m going to therapy, I’m also taking meds that I’m fully engaged in and that I believe in wholeheartedly. And it helps me balance. But I’m still dealing with it,” she said.

When she was only 7, Gomez began her career in the entertainment industry and has spent most of her life in the spotlight, turning her deeply personal journey with her mental and physical health into a public spectacle – a daunting reality for many child stars. .

“To be honest, I don’t know any different. Sometimes that’s really scary. It’s really sad. Other times, this is what I’ve been given. This is the path I want to continue on. I know, any moment I can stop and I wasn’t raised that way. So maybe if this had happened later in life I would have had a different outcome I really had to learn the hard way about it…not giving that clickbait people want.I do my best to try to eliminate these negative stories or other people illustrating my journey i interrupt them with my truth and i always will. i am the one who is in control of my story and no one can change that or anything say otherwise,” she said.

Through her documentary and sharing more of her journey, Gomez has learned a lot about the importance of embracing her imperfections and finding triumph amid trials.

“I always say there’s a blessing in breaking up. And every moment you come across in your life, even if it’s just road rage, it’s so simple to just maybe lose someone you love,” said they. “There’s no perfect way to heal. There’s no perfect way to deal with anything. It’s more like how am I going to be a better person?”

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