Ashanti shares how she reacted to Sister Kenashia’s “heartbreaking, toxic” relationship

Ashanti says she felt helpless when she found out that her younger sister, Kenashia Douglas, was in an abusive relationship.

In an exclusive clip shared with PEOPLE from Wednesday’s Red Table Talk episode featuring Ashanti, Kenashia Douglas and mother Tina Douglas, the “Foolish” singer says the nature of her younger sister’s relationship was “heartbreaking.”

“I don’t know when it started. Ironically, I was on the phone with you. It was heartbreaking. It was something that was going on and you don’t know how to deal with it,” the 42-year-old singer says, referring to sister Kenashia. “We have to respect her decisions.”

“I’m a big sister and I’m like, ‘Well, I don’t like him and I don’t think you two should be together. You’re both toxic.’ I used to tell them, “When you’re together, it’s like both of you drinking bleach. It’s toxic.”

Ashanti, Kenashia Douglas PrettyLittleThing x Ashanti launch party,

Ashanti, Kenashia Douglas PrettyLittleThing x Ashanti launch party,

MediaPunch/Shutterstock Ashanti and Kenashia

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She concludes, “But with everything she’s been through and growing up Ashanti’s little sister – it’s like wanting your own stuff. So there are certain things I felt like she might have put up with. How about dealing with this? What to do we now? No one gets a book on how to deal with this.”

The complete Red Table Talk episode, in which Kenashia, 33, speaks out about domestic violence, will premiere at 12 a.m. ET on Facebook Watch.

Last month, Ashanti honored her sister on social media as part of Domestic Violence Awareness Month.

In the lengthy post, the singer described the importance of speaking out — and how proud she was of her sister for escaping the situation. She also shared a series of photos of her sister bleeding and covered in bruises.

“It is Domestic Violence Awareness Month. Words will never be able to express the amount of pain, anger and disgust I feel as I relive these moments…but at the same time I am so proud of how strong, courageous, resilient and unbreakable you are,” Ashanti wrote. “My sister is a warrior! I love you deeply and infinitely. Thank you for being so brave and bringing awareness to this evil, mean and sad behavior that so many women face every day.”

She continued: “You did it! You won! Some women are so scared they have no way out… by sharing your story you bring hope, strength and continue to raise awareness of domestic violence. God remains bless you each day as you grow, prosper… and follow your purpose… your heart, mind and conscience are clear… you get EVERYTHING you DESERVE!!!”

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red table talking ashanti

Jordan Fisher Tina Douglas, Kenashia Douglas and Ashanti

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Douglas has previously opened up about the abusive relationship. While she didn’t specifically name her abuser, she was previously engaged to rapper Slow Bucks. On her 31st birthday, Douglas shared a montage video of clips from her childhood to now and halfway through the clip she shared photos of her injuries for the first time.

In a post of her own in October, she reflected on her experience: “It was dangerous not only for obvious reasons, but also because to the outside world everything seemed fine,” she said in part. “It got to a point where the abuse was normal behavior, and I would fight back, pick up whatever I could to protect myself.”

“I look at these pictures and have grace and patience for the woman I was and all she didn’t know! I love her and thank her for being part of my journey,” she concluded. “I don’t consider myself a victim or a survivor, this is all part of my story, my life and my journey…”

If you are experiencing domestic violence, call the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-7233, or go to All calls are free and confidential. The hotline is available 24/7 in more than 170 languages.

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